I see you

Sometimes it’s hard to see the people who are your biggest supporters. Sometimes we get so worked up on what we want that we don’t see what’s right in front of us. Or we go the opposite way and focus on someone else’s so much we forget ourselves. Sound familiar?

Which one of you? I have a tendency to wear my heart on my sleeve. I give of myself to others around me and usually forget about me. That’s who God made me to be. I can’t remember the last time I bought clothes just for myself or treated myself to a new haircut or spa day. I’m so busy worrying about everyone else around me that I forget me. And then I see people around me that are so worried about themselves that they forget their biggest supporters.

Words and actions are two different things but they work best when they are together saying I love you or thank you. That’s great. What about showing it wrapping your arms around that person that you so-called love is getting somebody something special as a thank you because they supported you. Words mean nothing without actions.

Goes both ways really. I focus so much on others that I forget myself. It’s not about loving others or thanking others. Sometimes it’s about loving yourself and thanking yourself. If you don’t look after you, how can you look after others? Probably never thought of it that way. Did you?

There’s nothing wrong with stopping and evaluating yourself and asking yourself this one. Big question. What can I do to do better? How can I love better? How can I thank someone better? Do I see everybody properly? And do I love myself and can I do it better?

So here’s your checklist. Who in your life needs to be thanked not just verbally but with action? Who in your life needs to be loved, not just verbally but with action? Go all out, especially if they’re important to you. How about yourself? When was the last time you did something for you? There is nothing wrong with loving yourself and someone else.

It’s also very important to hold each other accountable. Doesn’t matter if you’re married or friends. I guess the question is if someone were to walk up to you and say I don’t think what you’re doing is right. How would you take it? Nobody likes to be corrected. But if that correction makes you a better person is it wrong? Something to ponder. Healthy criticism can improve the direction you’re going in. If taken with the right attitude.

Find the people who encourage you to be better. Who correct you when you’re wrong. If you are right all the time and never corrected, you will never grow. Sit on that. Read that again.

If the person in your life that’s important to you is not challenging you, is not correcting you, then maybe you should find someone else. If they’re not pushing you to be a better you respectfully, then what do you really have?

I see you. I see your potential. I see the possible future. I see what you’re capable of. I see your past and how it has hurt you. I see what you’re worried about and how it will affect your future. I see your loss and how it follows you. I see your struggles on being good enough. I see your longing to be loved and cared for. I see your questions of self-worth. I see that. Am I good enough for another person? Do I have what it takes? I see you even if you think I don’t.

What I see when I look at you is a broken heart that has worked hard to come out of the ashes. Proving yourself to everyone around you when you’re already good enough. Cuz I struggle with the same thing. Or two peas in the same pod. Been there done that. I see you

I see your potential so I question how you’re attacking your choices. Because I know what you’re capable of. I see God in your life so I challenge you to be a better version in God’s eyes. Because I know what God has planned for you. I see you. I don’t correct or challenge you because I’m right. I do it because I see you and what God has planned for you.

What kind of a person would I be if I sat and said nothing? What kind of a Proverbs 31 woman would I be if I didn’t say something?

I see you probably better than you see yourself. The question is do you see me?